I Ching · Hexagram 13 Fellowship
Hexagram 13 for love and relationships: Fellowship
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Partnership founded on shared values and conducted openly. Secrets and private alliances, with friends or family, are the risk the hexagram names. Be together in the open and for the same reasons.
Fire below, heaven above: flame rising toward the sky it belongs to. Fellowship describes people joining around something larger than any of them, in the open, without secret factions. The tradition's judgement favours it strongly, including for large undertakings, and it adds the condition: the fellowship must be led by someone principled and it must be public. The reading asks what unites the people involved. If it is a genuine common cause, the union has great strength; if it is a private interest dressed up as a cause, the later lines show what happens.
- Advice
- Join around a real common purpose, in the open, under principled leadership.
- Warning
- Fellowship that shrinks into a clique, or hides part of itself, loses the strength that made it.
The changing lines, read for love and relationships
If your cast of Hexagram 13 had changing lines, these are what each one adds to a love question, and where each leads.
Line 1 · changes into 33 Retreat
Fellowship at the gate. No blame. Begin in the open, with no inner circle.
Line 2 · changes into 1 The Creative
Fellowship within the clan. Humiliation. If the fellowship has become a clique, open it again.
Line 3 · changes into 25 Innocence
Weapons hidden in the thicket; climbing the high hill. For three years, no rising. Where suspicion has replaced trust, nothing advances; address the mistrust or step out.
Line 4 · changes into 37 The Family
Climbing the wall, unable to attack. Good fortune. Stop at the wall; the attack you could make would be wrong.
Line 5 · changes into 30 The Clinging
Fellowship: first weeping and lamenting, then laughter. After great struggles they meet. Persist through the separation; the meeting comes after the struggle.
Line 6 · changes into 49 Revolution
Fellowship in the meadow. No regret. Accept a lighter fellowship for what it is.
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