Situationship astrology: reading the in-between
No chart tells you whether someone will text back.
2 min read · Published 31 August 2026
First, the answer
Astrology can't tell you what someone else intends, whether an undefined relationship will become defined, or whether they will come back. What a chart comparison can do is describe how each person tends to handle ambiguity, commitment and directness, which is preparation for a conversation and no substitute for having it.
The question people are asking
Almost always: what does this mean to them, and is it going anywhere. Astrology can answer neither. The first needs another person's internal state, the second a decision they haven't made. Running a chart for someone who hasn't consented is a different act from reading your own.
No chart tells you whether someone will text back, and I'd stop reading synastry as if it could.
What a chart can describe
| Factor | What it might describe |
|---|---|
| Venus placement | How someone expresses affection and what they find valuable |
| Moon placement | What someone needs to feel secure, often the real issue in ambiguity |
| Mercury | How directly someone communicates, and whether they say things plainly |
| Fixed vs mutable emphasis | Tolerance for open-endedness and unresolved situations |
| Saturn contacts in synastry | Where structure and commitment become a theme, for better or worse |
| 7th house | What someone looks for in partnership and may project onto it |
Every row is a tendency, not an intention. A chart suggesting someone communicates indirectly doesn't tell you what they're being indirect about.
The better use
Turn it round. Instead of asking what they want, ask what you are asking for and why you haven't asked. The information you want is held by one person and it isn't you.
Why astrology gets used this way
Because ambiguity is distressing and a system that produces some information feels better than none. The problem is only that this framework can't supply the missing information, and using it delays the conversation that can. AsterNym's match won't tell you what someone intends.
Can astrology tell me if a situationship will become a relationship?
No. That requires predicting a decision the other person hasn't made. A chart can describe how each person handles ambiguity and commitment, which is preparation for a conversation, not a substitute.
What can a chart say about an undefined relationship?
Tendencies: how someone expresses affection through Venus, what they need for security through the Moon, how directly they communicate through Mercury. Tendencies, not intentions.
Is it wrong to read someone else's chart?
Running a chart for someone who hasn't consented, to work out how they feel about you, is a different act from reading your own. It's common and understandable, and they have no say in it.
Xavier Brooks