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I Ching · Hexagram 15 Modesty

Hexagram 15 for love and relationships: Modesty

謙 Qiān · Love & relationships

Let your actions speak and your claims stay quiet. The reading favours the partner who does the work without needing it noticed. Balance is the theme: give more where you have given little, ask less where you have asked much.

Mountain below, earth above: height held beneath the ground. Modesty is the only hexagram in the book in which every line is favourable, and it describes greatness that does not need to show itself. The tradition's judgement is simple: modesty creates success, and the wise person carries things through. The reading is about levelling, reducing what is too much and adding to what is too little, in oneself and in the situation. It does not mean self-abasement. The mountain is still there; it is simply not making a point of itself.

Advice
Reduce what is excessive, add to what is lacking, and let substance speak for itself.
Warning
Modesty that is only manners, with nothing behind it, is not what the hexagram rewards.

The changing lines, read for love and relationships

If your cast of Hexagram 15 had changing lines, these are what each one adds to a love question, and where each leads.

  1. Line 1 · changes into 36 Darkening of the Light

    A modest and unassuming person may cross the great water. Good fortune. Approach the big task without fuss and you can do it.

  2. Line 2 · changes into 46 Pushing Upward

    Modesty that expresses itself. Persistence is fortunate. Be the same in private as in public; it is noticed and trusted.

  3. Line 3 · changes into 2 The Receptive

    A person of merit and modesty carries things to a conclusion. Good fortune. Finish the work, and do not let recognition change how you carry yourself.

  4. Line 4 · changes into 62 Small Excess

    Nothing that does not further modesty in movement. Be modest and be active; do not hide behind humility.

  5. Line 5 · changes into 39 Obstruction

    Not boasting of wealth before the neighbour. It is fitting to attack with force. Nothing that does not further. When firmness is needed, use it without display and without apology.

  6. Line 6 · changes into 52 Keeping Still

    Modesty that expresses itself. It is fitting to set armies marching to chastise one's own city and country. Put your own house in order first; that is the modest use of strength.

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