Hexagram 17 for love and relationships: Following

隨 Suí · Love & relationships

Go along with the other person's rhythm for now, and choose carefully whom you follow. Devotion to someone worth it is strength; devotion to anyone who asks is the error the lines describe.

Thunder below, lake above: movement within joy, thunder resting in the lake in autumn. Following describes the art of adapting, of going with the time rather than against it, and of leading by being worth following. The tradition's judgement promises success with persistence, and the condition is that what is followed must be good. This is not passivity or drifting. It is the choice to serve something you believe in, to let others serve you only when you have earned it, and to rest when the season asks for rest.

Advice: Follow what is worth following, wholeheartedly, and adapt to the time.
Warning: Following the wrong person, or following out of weakness rather than choice, loses the way.

The changing lines, read for love and relationships

If your cast of Hexagram 17 had changing lines, these are what each one adds to a love question, and where each leads.

Line 1 · changes into 45 Gathering Together
The standard changes. Persistence brings good fortune. Going out of the door to mingle brings achievement. Adapt to the change and go out to meet people unlike yourself.
Line 2 · changes into 58 The Joyous
Clinging to the little boy, one loses the strong man. Let go of the lesser attachment; it is costing you the greater one.
Line 3 · changes into 49 Revolution
Clinging to the strong man, one loses the little boy. Following, one finds what one seeks. Persistence furthers. Give up the comfortable thing for the worthwhile one, and stay with it.
Line 4 · changes into 3 Difficulty at the Beginning
Following creates success; persistence brings misfortune. Sincerity in the way brings clarity. How could there be blame? If people follow you, keep your motives transparent and serve the cause, not the following.
Line 5 · changes into 51 The Arousing
Sincere in what is good. Good fortune. Commit sincerely to what is good and let that be what draws others.
Line 6 · changes into 25 Innocence
Firmly held and bound. The king offers sacrifice on the western mountain. Honour the bonds that outlast their purpose; they are the real ones.

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