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I Ching · Hexagram 37 The Family

Hexagram 37 line 3: The Family, yang in the third place

Line 3 of a hexagram

I Ching 37.3

When tempers flare in the family, too great severity brings remorse, yet good fortune. When wife and child dally and laugh, it ends in humiliation.

The choice between too strict and too lax, and the tradition's preference: severity causes regret but preserves the house; laxity causes no regret and loses it. Between the two errors, err toward firmness.

Advice. If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more.

What changes when line 3 moves

Line 3 of Hexagram 37 is yang, a solid line. When it is cast as old yang (a 9) it flips, and the hexagram becomes Hexagram 42, Increase: The top gives to the base and everything grows: a time of increase, to be used well and used now.

Read together, the reading moves from The Family toward Increase. The household in order: roles, warmth and words with substance, from which everything larger is built. Thunder below, wind above: the two reinforcing each other, wind spreading the thunder's force. Increase is the mirror of Decrease: what is above gives to what is below, and the whole flourishes. The primary hexagram describes the situation; the changing line is the point of movement in it; the resulting hexagram is where that movement leads. Both hexagrams belong to the reading, and the changing line is the hinge between them.

Hexagram 37 changing to 42 →

Line 3 in context

Love & relationships
If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more. In love and relationships, Hexagram 37 reads: The reading is about the home you make together: clear roles, real affection, and words that mean what they say. Firmness with warmth. It warns against a household run by mood, and against one run only by rule.
Career
If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more. In career, Hexagram 37 reads: Order in the team or the organisation, built from clear roles and consistent conduct. Lead as the head of a household: firmly, warmly, and by example. What is in order at the centre spreads outward.
Money
If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more. In money, Hexagram 37 reads: The household budget: order, clear responsibility, and provision for those who depend on you. Wealth here means a well-run house, not a large one. Consistency over years is the method.
A decision
If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more. In decisions, Hexagram 37 reads: Decide as the head of a household would: for the order and wellbeing of the whole, with roles clear and words kept. The option that strengthens the foundation is the right one.

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