Hexagram 37 for love and relationships: The Family

家人 Jiā Rén · Love & relationships

The reading is about the home you make together: clear roles, real affection, and words that mean what they say. Firmness with warmth. It warns against a household run by mood, and against one run only by rule.

Fire below, wind above: wind rising from fire, influence spreading outward from the hearth. The Family describes the structure of the household and, by extension, of any close group: each person in a fitting role, relationships held by affection and by rule together, and the whole kept in order from the inside. The tradition's judgement is that the persistence of the woman furthers, meaning that the inner, steady, nourishing principle is what holds the house. The image adds that words must have substance and conduct must be consistent. The reading is about order at home, in the widest sense, as the foundation for everything beyond it.

Advice: Keep the household in order from the inside: clear roles, consistent conduct, words with substance.
Warning: A house run by mood loses its order; a house run by rule alone loses its warmth.

The changing lines, read for love and relationships

If your cast of Hexagram 37 had changing lines, these are what each one adds to a love question, and where each leads.

Line 1 · changes into 53 Development
Firm seclusion within the family. Remorse disappears. Set the order at the start, before it has to be imposed.
Line 2 · changes into 9 Small Taming
She should not follow her whims; she must attend within to the food. Persistence brings good fortune. Attend to the essential, unglamorous work at the centre; it is what holds everything.
Line 3 · changes into 42 Increase
When tempers flare in the family, too great severity brings remorse, yet good fortune. When wife and child dally and laugh, it ends in humiliation. If you must err, err toward firmness; laxity costs more.
Line 4 · changes into 13 Fellowship
She is the treasure of the house. Great good fortune. Manage what the house has with care; that stewardship is its treasure.
Line 5 · changes into 22 Grace
As a king he approaches his family. Fear not. Good fortune. Lead your house with love, not fear; it will follow.
Line 6 · changes into 63 After Completion
His work commands respect. In the end, good fortune. Be the example; respect for your conduct is what holds the house at the end.

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